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  • 1. Different Yet Excellent: A Delicious Look at Gender Distinctives! (28:36)

    Women & Men – God intentionally designed us differently, and it’s excellent!

    • What is the Biblical picture of gender?
    • What does “different” mean and how deep does it go?
    • Men are like waffles = what does that mean?
    • Women are like spaghetti = what does that mean?
    • How does this difference affect our communication?
    • Why men and women struggle to listen to each other?
    • Acceptance of our “createdness” without being a jerk/witch!

  • 2. Different Yet Excellent: A Delicious Look at Gender Distinctives! (19:12)

    Women & Men in Stress

    • What does a woman need when she’s stressed?
    • What does a man need when he’s stressed?
    • How are they unlike the other when stressed?
    • What is the importance of undistracted focus and connection?
    • Will it help to join them in their world?

  • 3. Different Yet Excellent: A Delicious Look at Gender Distinctives! (51:43)

    Women & Men in Communication

    • When he/she starts a discussion, it’s because he/she…
    • What we can do to let the other finish the conversation they want to have?
    • How does a guy or gal serve the other through communication?
    • How to communicate, a doable process, a few rules…
    • Are we trying to find the right partner or…?
    • Does being in love necessarily mean we will be good at communicating?

  • 4. Different Yet Excellent: A Delicious Look at Gender Distinctives! (34:39)

    Women & Men in Conflict

    • Is conflict necessary/inevitable?
    • Can a relationship grow without conflict?
    • Why do men/women compete/fight?
    • Are you competing/fighting about the same thing?
    • Do you fight for the relationship or against each other?
    • 3 (non)secrets for better communication
    • 6 handles on forgiveness and 1 freebee!

  • 5. Different Yet Excellent: A Delicious Look at Gender Distinctives! (42:08)

    Women & Men – Primary Needs

    • Is your sacrifice for your wife anything like Christ’s for us?
    • Does disrespecting your husband mean you distrust God?
    • Can we disagree without being disrespectful?
    • What two things should be removed from our relationship?
    • Do we always know why we feel the way we do?
    • Does saying “I understand” help?
    • What are his and her key needs?

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Discussion Questions
for Couples & Groups

QUESTIONS:

  1. How do you react when hearing that both genders were, intentionally, a part of God’s original creation?
  2. How do you react when hearing the counter-cultural message that both genders are equally necessary, valuable, beautiful, and excellent as they are, because of their differences?
  3. Have you ever felt the advantages of the opposite gender were greater than those of your own? Why?
  4. Do you feel that this excellence and feminine beauty or masculine strength includes you? Or do you struggle to feel beautiful or strong or necessary or enough just as you are?
  5. In what ways do you feel you do or do not reflect the stereotypical picture of gender as it was presented?
  6. Can you see any ways that your gender comes to play in your communication with your significant other?
QUESTIONS:

  1. How well did you feel the descriptions of his or her needs when stressed fit yours?
  2. How well did you feel that the descriptions fit your significant other?
  3. What is the most troubling difference between your needs and the way you both react to stress?
  4. What part of “your world” would you like your partner to join you in?
  5. Is there a part of your world you would not want them to join you in? Why?
  6. Is there a part of your world that you keep secret from them?
QUESTIONS:

  1. Summarize the metaphor for the opposite gender from yourself. (Men explain how women are like spaghetti, women how men are like waffles.)
  2. Why do men usually start a conversation?
  3. Why do women usually launch a conversation?
  4. How can we serve the other through our communication? (remember the Scripture references)
  5. Summarize the “doable” process for having a successful (communication that communicates something real) chat?
  6. Is there any possibility that you might not be trying to be the right partner?
QUESTIONS:

  1. Summarize the metaphor for your (biological) gender. (Men explain how you are like waffles, women how you are like spaghetti.)
  2. Do you agree or disagree that conflict is necessary for good relationships?
  3. In what way might conflict help you communicate better?
  4. What is the difference in the way men and women compete/fight? (Think about why, what they are after.)
  5. What are the 3 (non) secrets for better communication?
  6. What are the 6 handles that help you get started forgiving?
QUESTIONS:

  1. What do the following “divine mathematics” mean, 1+1=1?
  2. What are a man’s and women’s primary (overarching) needs?
  3. Men, have you ever stopped to consider if you treat your wife like Christ treats the church? (self-sacrificially, as much as and better than the way you love yourself, nourishing, carefully protecting, and cherishing her; the Amplified Bible)
  4. How might it change your interactions/relationship if you did?
  5. Women, have you ever stopped to consider if you treat your husband as you treat Christ? (Be submissive, adapt yourself, respect, revere, notice, regard, honor, prefer, praise, love, and admire him, exceedingly, the Amplified Bible)
  6. How might it change your interactions/relationship if you did?